Parenting: Modeling God’s love

Parenting: Modeling God’s love

As a parent I did not always follow this wonderful plan of God in raising my children. I was always a hard disciplinarian. I dished out discipline in anger and impatience way to often, thus breaking their hearts and their spirit’s.  And I paid the price later with my children. After becoming a christian I began the process of retraining myself in godly parenting skills, but this was not an instant thing to learn. I backslid so many times. As I grew and learned to discipline with more compassion and godly nurturing I became more aware of the damage I had done to my children. I was caught up in my own thing, and not wanting to be bothered or have to take the time to really listen to my children’s heart from my own heart. But we had better learn that God wants our children to be our main thing in this life. Put down the remote control, the cell phone, the games, and everything else that you have put before your life’s mission…. which is to love and nurture these children and listen to them with love, patients, and compassion. What they are saying is just as important to them as the things you have put before them. As a parent, make those sweet children “THE PRIORITY IN YOUR LIFE AND THEIRS”. You will reap a future with them one way or the other.

My children are now in their 40’s with children of their own. I am in awe of how much better they are in their parenting skills than I was. I could have saved myself and my children so much grief had I become a christian before starting my family. The scripture in Psalms 127:3 tells us that our children are an heritage from the Lord, a reward from Him. Ephesians 6:4 tells that as parents we are not to provoke them to anger or wrath, frustrating them…but we are to love them and nurture them in the admonition and counselling of the Lord. Love them unconditionally.

Children can be drilled like military men into submitting to their parents, thus making them obey you and your rules out of fear of you and your wrath. But if you take time to listen to them. If you will allow yourself to hear them from your heart, like our Heavenly Father listens to and hears us from his heart, then when they are older, they will be more willing to hear you and listen to you and obey you from their heart and out of love and respect for you, their mom & dad. We represent God in their lives. Children may perceive God in how they perceive you.

As a parent, grandparent, and great-grandparent, I wish that I had known all of the godly parenting skills, before I ever gave birth. I love my two children more than life and have apologized to them for my early lack of godly parenting. I love you Tommy & Kim!

Ephesians 6:4 (KJV)    And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

 

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Feeling Presidential

Feeling Presidential

I hear this sometimes said of the Presidents elected to serve our wonderful nation.  Just thinking out loud…  what exactly does that mean? I’m feeling presidential or he does or does not look presidential?!  As in someone saying, “I’m feeling secretarial, or I’m feeling electritional…..  I could go on and on.

I can picture the President sitting in the oval office, he see’s his reflection in a mirror and thinks, “Wow, I look really good today”, or, “lookin’ good, Barack“.  But as he gazes at his reflection in the mirror, does he ever think, ” sportin’ a great presidential look today, Obama”.

It has been said that in the third presidential debate, Romney had a much more presidential look than Obama, during the debate on military spending. Angered by Romney’s words, the President accused Romney of not knowing how the military works.  In this attack on Romney, the President came across as very unpresidential, becoming rude, smirking, yet squirmimg, looking uncomfortable and caught off guard.  This is not what I want to see in a President, and does not give me confidence that he can rise to the occasion. Governor Romney, on the other hand, rose to the occasion of this debate, looking very Presidential.  He was not swayed one bit by Obama’s smirks or his rude and misleading comments.  What I saw, as I watched the debate, was a strong, intelligent man, with his jaw line set, his eyes looking directly at the setting President, and looking more Presidential, and more like what I now wish we had in a president. Of course, this is all hindsight, since, Obama won the electorial vote and the Presidencial race.

So my descriptive opinion of what  “Looking Presidential” should look like, is…..

The expression on his face the day President George W. Bush was told that the Trade center had been attacked.

The day President Ronald Reagan declared, “Mr. Gorbachev, Tear down that wall”.

I understand that this not my usual ramblings based on Gods Word.  But needed to be said anyway, with all the finger pointing at former President, George W. Bush.  I beleive that he came to the Presidency for such a time as this.  He had a mandate on his life, a God given directive.  And that was accomplished.

BTW:  Do you know my Savior?  Jesus is His name.  That name that’s above all names.

Sharon D. Middleton.